Sandboy
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I know I said it once, but I honestly don't think the problem is the marital crisis premise (I think both positive and negative portrayals are equally valid), but rather the fact that they don't add anything new to your relationship. I mean, yes, I'm just as apprehensive of that episode template as you are. But I think there is a line where both sides of their representation can co-exist. Idk, I feel like Jean's episodes often seem to stick strictly to the premise, in a way where it feels like it doesn't really contribute to anything (just feeling like a "catch-all for when we don't have episode ideas"). It's strange because the classic series only had four episodes distributed in its first 8 seasons that were strictly focused on that (and it is worth saying that two of them are a window into other conflicts; i.e. The two episodes of focused on a new love interest revolving in the lives of Homer and Marge).
So I don't think it's completely wrong to portray a less favorable side of their relationship, but I think it's a matter of perspective. The longevity of the series and the number of times they have resorted to this trope also seems to work against the series; How many times can you make Homer and Marge have problems in their marriage before it becomes a toxic marriage dynamic. It's an interesting question, but I think what the classic series achieved (and I say in advance that this is a question of balance), is the fact that they never fully compromised the foundation of the characters, much less the closest representation and true to real life couples. Homer and Marge are a dynamic that has always been presented as more bittersweet: a common theme of the series was the fact that Marge was too good for Homer and, you know? It is valid. Not everything is a bed of roses and at the end of the day they have their differences even if at the end of the day it is shown that they still love each other. So what did I mean that it is a matter of perspective? Well, the fact that, a lot of these "conflicts" between Homer and Marge are so artificial is because they have no creative basis to explore (and this isn't really a surprise to any of you), the struggles that Homer and Marge's episodes of marital crisis from the classic era gave the series that realism and fidelity to its world: carnal temptations, dependency and the concept of the soul mate are struggles and questions that any couple could go through and they are all represented through through both sides of the coin (Secrets of a Marriage is a fascinating example of this dilation). At the end of the day these were faithful and genuine to what the characters (in this case Homer and Marge) were. They were realistic, measured and in a sense there was a genuine pathos and humanity in these conflicts (even in more "outside" concepts like Misteryous Voyage they had a respect for that side of the characters).
Part of the reason Pixelated and Afraid had such an impact on Homer and Marge's relationship is that it saw their marriage through a different lens; one that shows *why* they love each other even despite their ups and downs. It's a simple question but... I think you can only play with the marriage crisis a few times until it becomes redundant and that greatly affects the opinion people have about them ("ugh, ANOTHER, marriage crisis episode? "). Hell, contrary to popular belief. I think Selman actually makes very heavy use of this trope as well, and that's fine. And I think the difference is in small details: the point of extracting and telling something new about their dynamic, but in a way that does not follow to the letter the worn-out cliché of the marital crisis. Have you noticed how the Selman episodes often rebut the "crisis" part, with friction between Homer and Marge? Like the episodes that see them wage a battle of beliefs and ideals like Steal This Episode and Night of the Living Wage? And I think it's not necessarily a bad thing, I think a lot of the difference is in the contexts. Friction may not really be something new, but it's a different perspective that opens up new perspectives on their relationship (is Homer's love for food more than his wife? Equally valid questions), or heck, a Jean episode I think What has worked the most for me is an episode of this type I Won't Be Home for Christmas. Granted, Marge is irrational, it's still a marital crisis and Homer is punished for something that wasn't in his way. But do you know why I like it? Because it really delves into Marge's perspective, something that is often ignored in these types of episodes (since they tend to focus more on Homer and it's another problem on the one-dimensional side in these types of episodes). At the end of the day it's refreshing, but refreshing because it can be more than just "a marriage crisis." You can see another side of the dynamic and that would be refreshing, you can have other types of questions in your relationship without having to go completely to "we make them fight over x thing." It's just that... The execution of the story.
So I don't think it's completely wrong to portray a less favorable side of their relationship, but I think it's a matter of perspective. The longevity of the series and the number of times they have resorted to this trope also seems to work against the series; How many times can you make Homer and Marge have problems in their marriage before it becomes a toxic marriage dynamic. It's an interesting question, but I think what the classic series achieved (and I say in advance that this is a question of balance), is the fact that they never fully compromised the foundation of the characters, much less the closest representation and true to real life couples. Homer and Marge are a dynamic that has always been presented as more bittersweet: a common theme of the series was the fact that Marge was too good for Homer and, you know? It is valid. Not everything is a bed of roses and at the end of the day they have their differences even if at the end of the day it is shown that they still love each other. So what did I mean that it is a matter of perspective? Well, the fact that, a lot of these "conflicts" between Homer and Marge are so artificial is because they have no creative basis to explore (and this isn't really a surprise to any of you), the struggles that Homer and Marge's episodes of marital crisis from the classic era gave the series that realism and fidelity to its world: carnal temptations, dependency and the concept of the soul mate are struggles and questions that any couple could go through and they are all represented through through both sides of the coin (Secrets of a Marriage is a fascinating example of this dilation). At the end of the day these were faithful and genuine to what the characters (in this case Homer and Marge) were. They were realistic, measured and in a sense there was a genuine pathos and humanity in these conflicts (even in more "outside" concepts like Misteryous Voyage they had a respect for that side of the characters).
Part of the reason Pixelated and Afraid had such an impact on Homer and Marge's relationship is that it saw their marriage through a different lens; one that shows *why* they love each other even despite their ups and downs. It's a simple question but... I think you can only play with the marriage crisis a few times until it becomes redundant and that greatly affects the opinion people have about them ("ugh, ANOTHER, marriage crisis episode? "). Hell, contrary to popular belief. I think Selman actually makes very heavy use of this trope as well, and that's fine. And I think the difference is in small details: the point of extracting and telling something new about their dynamic, but in a way that does not follow to the letter the worn-out cliché of the marital crisis. Have you noticed how the Selman episodes often rebut the "crisis" part, with friction between Homer and Marge? Like the episodes that see them wage a battle of beliefs and ideals like Steal This Episode and Night of the Living Wage? And I think it's not necessarily a bad thing, I think a lot of the difference is in the contexts. Friction may not really be something new, but it's a different perspective that opens up new perspectives on their relationship (is Homer's love for food more than his wife? Equally valid questions), or heck, a Jean episode I think What has worked the most for me is an episode of this type I Won't Be Home for Christmas. Granted, Marge is irrational, it's still a marital crisis and Homer is punished for something that wasn't in his way. But do you know why I like it? Because it really delves into Marge's perspective, something that is often ignored in these types of episodes (since they tend to focus more on Homer and it's another problem on the one-dimensional side in these types of episodes). At the end of the day it's refreshing, but refreshing because it can be more than just "a marriage crisis." You can see another side of the dynamic and that would be refreshing, you can have other types of questions in your relationship without having to go completely to "we make them fight over x thing." It's just that... The execution of the story.