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Financial Panther

What do you people want from me?

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What do you guys want from me? To leave? Well that's not going to happen. I've tried taking a break from this site, but my Simpsons obsession doesn't allow that, and if people are just going to continue to bash me when I return, I see no point. I've tried just posting about Simpsons and not bothering anyone, but that appeared unacceptable to people for some reason. I have BEGGED people to tell me exactly what I can do to better myself, but all I receive are insults or the occasional cryptic message like "find validation in yourself." What the hell does that mean? I have tried being very nice to the people here when explaining my side of things, but I have not received that kind of treatment in return. There's something I'm doing that isn't satisfying people here, and I can't put my finger on what it is. If you could keep from insulting me and just try to COMMUNICATE with me, I think we could put this whole fiasco behind us and get back to happily boarding together.
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  1. OldSchoolerSimpsons's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Financial Panther
    No, that was the "change your mindset" part. I get that. I'm referring to the "change your mindset about yourself" part.
    Wh

    Wh

    Wh
  2. pilcrow's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Financial Panther
    My goal has been to go back to Simpsons posting; are you saying that's not the right goal to have?
    That's exactly what I'm saying. If the only reason you're apologizing is so you can go back to Simpsons posting, well, that's a shitty attitude toward trying to learn anything from your mistakes. People want you to be held accountable for your actions, not for you to say whatever it takes to go back to simps posting.
  3. Ryan's Avatar
    Panther has officially reached D'ohmer levels of dense
  4. Ben Dewison's Avatar
    I'm not great at giving emotional support, because like you I also have a problematic tendency to become blinkered by the facts. Others probably aren't going to make exceptions for that though, unless you get on their good side by making it seem like you're earnestly trying your hardest to make up for any hurt feelings. The only time it ever felt that way to me was after your first apology. Every other time it came across like "I'm sorry, but...", which seemed to be an attempt to start a battle you were never going to win. Remember, you wanted to stay on the forum at all costs and virtually every other prominent member held your previous conduct against you. Without wanting to speak for anyone else, I can imagine how that could've reeked of arrogance and self-entitlement.

    Personally, I was also surprised at the initial level of outrage after you returned the first time (my problem, I know, although I don't think I was the only one :-)) and couldn't identify exactly why it was happening. However, even then it was clear that any attempt to blame that for your problems, rather than try to adapt to it, was incredibly counter-productive. Currently, given the level of contempt you've shown towards other members over this, they might not feel they have any good reason to feel sympathy or support towards you. While you're not banned it's possible to change that, but at this point I can't imagine it not being extremely difficult.

    Sorry if this feels like I'm butting in, despite not having been involved, but I guess we'll see if more 'cold' logic helps :-).
  5. Telso's Avatar
    Panther go away
  6. Ryan's Avatar
    Panther will you ever let this go? Asking honestly here because I'm curious.
  7. Financial Panther's Avatar
    I mean, "letting it go" won't solve the problem, now will it?
  8. Ryan's Avatar
    Yeah, actually it kind of will.
  9. Financial Panther's Avatar
    That seems to go against what a lot of people have told me. They said I needed to address the situation, not get away from it.
  10. Ryan's Avatar
    Giving up your plan to post only on Simps and maybe just taking a very long introspective break would help heal the wounds for sure.
  11. Financial Panther's Avatar
    Okay Ryan, if you really think that will help...
  12. Ryan's Avatar
    But that isn't the only thing....!!!

    Sigh well. We tried.

    See you next month.
  13. Financial Panther's Avatar
    But wait! I still don't understand this:

    Quote Originally Posted by Financial Panther
    Torrens talked a lot about being happy with who I am and loving myself and stuff like that. I don't really have a problem with that and I'm not sure what makes people think I do. I mean, I have depression and I take medication for it, but I don't see how my self-esteem is a contributing factor to this whole situation.
  14. Financial Panther's Avatar
    Oh, so I got some outside perspective, and apparently "find validation in yourself" means to forgive yourself and move on instead of trying to seek forgiveness from others because it doesn't matter what they think; it matters what I think about it and my actions to move forward? Well that kind of makes sense. All right, well, I forgive myself for this. I'm guessing the "action" now is to leave for a while. I can do that.
  15. pilcrow's Avatar
    I mean it's obvious you have no intention to learn anything from this so of course you'd forgive yourself. If you wanna be accepted (not even forgiven, just accepted) by others on here though who are still upset about this, you might want to actually try to learn something and not instantly forgive yourself?
  16. pilcrow's Avatar
    Like just to go back to what I said about your mindset, you're still trying to find an easy way back into the simpsons section, which supposedly is "forgive yourself in a heartbeat, leave for a while." If you want to show anyone here that you've learned a single thing from your mistakes, maybe don't outright say "ok I've decided to instantly forgive myself for what I did."
  17. Financial Panther's Avatar
    What is there to learn besides what I've said a million times already? Learn not to have sex with drunk girls. I get it. Learn to love myself. I get it. I don't know what else you're looking for me to learn out of all this. The only thing I can even remotely think of is something Torrens said about apologizing for sending a PM asking why people were treating me like this. I don't see a reason to apologize for that; it was a PM and not intended for you to see. I was angry and did not know why people were getting away with treating me this way. I shouldn't have to apologize for asking why people are acting a certain way toward me.
  18. pax's Avatar
    literally fucking no one is going to let you post about simpsons again, get over that sob fantasy
  19. Financial Panther's Avatar
    I don't see why they wouldn't if I eventually figure out how to remedy this.
  20. OldSchoolerSimpsons's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Financial Panther
    The only thing I can even remotely think of is something Torrens said about apologizing for sending a PM asking why people were treating me like this. I don't see a reason to apologize for that; it was a PM and not intended for you to see. I was angry and did not know why people were getting away with treating me this way. I shouldn't have to apologize for asking why people are acting a certain way toward me.
    Go fuck yourself.
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