So NoHomers... Are you happy?

[Mozy]

That's sad, man. I hope for the best.

[Financial Panther]

I love cats. I hope the disease goes away.

[Knightboat]

At the moment I'm at about a 7. I'm in my last semester of my university degree so in about 9 weeks I'll have finished with my educational years forever. I used to get a little depressed at times but my confidence has grown at such a rapid rate the last couple of months. It's unbelievable. I used to be that really quiet guy who wouldn't say anything unless spoken to which would hinder my chances of making new friends. I learnt that I wasn't going to get anywhere like that. Now I've let myself out of the box and it feels great. I'm walking to and from uni every day (which is a two-hour walk each way) and I'm losing weight.

Unfortunately, I'm unemployed and pretty fucking poor. Plus, my student loan is just getting bigger and bigger. I really hope I can secure a steady income by the time I've finished my degree otherwise I'm boned. To be honest, if I had more money to spend on leisurely activities like going to out with friends, spending money on green, and movie tickets, I'd be a 9 out of 10.

To those of you who don't know whether or not to talk to girls, I say do it or you'll regret it. I guarantee it. I mean, don't be so confident that you're an asshole, but talking to a girl is the first step to proving you're a confident person. Bitches love that. (Don't call them 'bitches' though, they don't like that).

Oh, and don't view every girl you see as a potential girlfriend. I used to do this and I ended up coming off as desperate and undesirable. I know you may struggle with this at first - it's hard to view a girl without thinking about their genitals (not in a literal sense) - but making friends with the opposite sex first is a start. Then, you'll be introduced to friends of members of the opposite sex and who knows who you'll meet...

I don't want to sound patronising, because I don't know whether the male members of NHC who aren't in relationships know how to talk to girls or not. On the other hand, most guys have this problem. I just thought maybe some of you might find this advice helpful if you're stressing over not meeting anyone special.

[leprechaun_dan]

I've been a 9 today. Particularly because one of the NZ rowing teams won us our first gold medal in an incredible race

[Knightboat]

I've been a 9 today. Particularly because one of the NZ rowing teams won us our first gold medal in an incredible race

WOOOO!

[leprechaun_dan]

The race was amazing. I never thought 2 guys from our country could go from 4th place to 1st place that fast.

Proud Kiwi :')

[leprechaun_dan]

Alright, now I'm a 10. Just won yet another gold medal thanks to our rowing team! :')

Proud once again

[leprechaun_dan]

AND ANOTHER ONE! MAHE DRYSDALE :')

[Knightboat]

WOOOOO! Fuck it, I'm having another glass of wine.

Let's hope the weekend is just beginning for NZ...

[leprechaun_dan]

We're only just getting started We still got Valerie Adams to go

[YellowFever]

Hi guys, I've been posting on No Homer's rather sporadically since late last year, and even though I haven't really had deep conversations with any of you I feel that I've sort of got to know you, your posts and comments have made me smile, given me something to debate about and have been a nice distraction from some of the lows of every day life. Seeing this thread I realize how much people who could discuss things every day don't even know anything about each other, like silent strangers sharing a nod or smile of courtesy on the street yet knowing nothing that ever really scratches the surface. I guess it's just human nature for us to just categorize everyone as having perfect lives (and in some cases attributing the personality of their avatar, like me and my stupid head do!) but that's never true.

If I was to rate my life right now I'd rank it at a 4, maybe 5, but some days it's 1 and some days it's at a 10. I have my good days and my dark days. I've been haunted all my life by a traumatic experience I went through as a child, I've seen almost everyone I love die, I've been caring after my cancer-battling and stroke suffering mother for the last two years, I've been battling depression and on top of all that I've been burying everything deep down inside. I have many days where I hit rock bottom, and up until four months ago I never had someone to pick me up, until I met this one girl through a friend, and now she is my best friend and my most favourite person in the world. She saved me and gave me hope. The days I see her are the days I can rank my life at a 10 but things are more complicated than I can even begin to explain. More complicated than any sodding soap opera for sure. I've been in relationships in the past, and when it all came down to it, all they were were pieces of eye candy, but no substance at all, and this girl is the most beautiful on the inside and out. I can't stop thinking about her. I've tried to lie to myself but I know deep down that I have feelings for her but I can't tell her, not yet anyway because I know you all might think "just tell her", but things are more complicated than you could ever even begin to imagine.

Earlier today I had a bit of an epiphany. I went to sleep and I dreamt of a perfect world. And I felt nothing but absolute bliss and joy and love and all the pain and anger and hatred was gone and when I woke up everything became clear. It's such a cliche to say it but you only live once and you gotta make each day count, and if you're not happy then I guess you just have to re-evaluate your life and take control like I'm trying to do. Think of the thing you need to fix your life and go get it. And if you try and you fail keep going and never ever give up.

What's great about this place is how people that don't even know each other can support each other without even knowing it, it's a place which people invest their time in and where people are often cheered up, to get to converse and joke and argue and make new connections, to get to escape from the lows of every day life. My heart genuinely goes out to all of you guys here who aren't happy right now. I truly hope things can get better for all of you and I believe deep down inside that to experience pure joy you have to first experience rock bottom, to experience love you must first experience heartbreak and to enjoy the good days of life you must first embrace the bad.

Good luck and best wishes.

And apologies for the preposterous length and preachiness of this post.

[D DEBBS]

Happy? No.

Grumpy or any of the other seven dwarves: yes.

[Malaise Forever]

Hi,

I've started my own business two weeks ago and so this is why I don't post as much. But I think I'm about a seven, the negative thing is that I'm anxious at times and I need to rest but I will be seeing a health assistant for that and will probably start going to short meetings with people that have the same problem. Also, I wake up very late, almost at noon each day and I would like to remedy the situation but I don't know how (like Hypersomnia).

[Dobbie]

What's the name of your business?

[The Governor]

I hope I'll be getting the dumb-grunt warehouse job in the next few weeks where I'm actually paid by the hour (no more salaried pay!) and the starting pay is $18/hour and I'll be very happy! Right now I'm running a Subway and I'm doing 55 hour / 6 day weeks and it's pissing me off.

[Ernie]

I'm at about 8~9 at the moment. All the busy stuff are gone since the beginning of August. I have the rest of the month to do whatever I wish to do; well, I still need to get my driver's license.

[Malaise Forever]

What's the name of your business?

"Le Filmographe" I've had the idea of starting a video rental store specialized in independant and world cinema since this fall and now I'm fully operating!

And today was quite busy so I'll add a 7.5 to my rating!

[Dobbie]

I assume you are in Quebec City? That's too far from where I am believe it or not!

[D DEBBS]

Tummy troubles since 8:30 PM does NOT make a NHCer "happy!"

[Malaise Forever]

I assume you are in Quebec City? That's too far from where I am believe it or not!

Nope. I live in a relatively small town so I am the only one with this kind of repertory.

[Dobbie]

Nope. I live in a relatively small town so I am the only one with this kind of repertory.

I also live in a small town in Quebec.

Freaky...

[MrPlowKing]

I'm at a 6, pretty low point.I'm a very anxious person i dont want to post all my problems on the internet, im a very private guy. At the moment I'm ill and Waiting to hear from college and very worried about it. I have been saving every penny i have to pay for it as my dad has no money to pay towards it. Its not all bad though, good friends, good family and a great lady Hopefully i get in to college and can move out of home.

[YellowFever]

Have had a bit of a tough week. Finally expressed my feelings to her but was ultimately too late. We talked for hours, and even though she said a few things in a few brief moments which made me think we could be together she ultimately realized that being just friends is best way to go just so not to complicate things, and also, without me even knowing, she's ended up in a relationship with someone else. I'm happy that she's happy, but ultimately wishing that I had not told her so I could rather lie to myself and live with the hope of one day being with her rather than knowing it's not going to happen and feeling the pain of knowing that, or I wish I could just tear these feelings out and forget about them. I felt bad for a while back there but I truly am feeling better already, I've seen her since and we've just acted like none of that has happened which helped. I don't want to lose her and I know I can cope with my feelings.

On top of that I'm feeling a lot of pressure from trying to be supportive of other people. A few months ago I managed to stop someone who was in a bad bad place from killing themselves. We talked for days and days and I helped this person and now this person is in a good place and I feel that if there's one good thing I could do in my life is help people. But right now there is someone who is feeling these bad feelings and I am so so scared. I've told him that he would hurt the people that love him, that there are things worth living for, that as bad as things are now things do get better for people, that if he seeks relief from the pain that pain is a feeling and you need to be alive to feel it and that there must be a small part of him that knows what I'm saying is right. And I do feel like I've gotten through to him a bit. But I worry I might say the wrong thing and I'm so so tired. And then on top of that I've promised another friend to help their friend who recently tried to kill themself, and I know where these people are, but talking to them brings me down to, although I wouldn't dare not trying to help them, I'm not the type of person who can be content with that, I don't even know this other person but now I'm involved and I just have to save him.

I know you must all think my life is the most fucked up thing ever. Like I said more fucked up than a soap opera for sure but I don't know any different. Sometimes I do wish I had someone else's life. I want to help people but it drains me so much. My life is so complicated right now. And I've seen myself and people I love become unhinged and it's a daily struggle to fix everything. I tell myself things will get better that I will find happiness and I often doubt that. But I have enough coping resources and enough things to live for and a lot of people who are depending on me right now so I'll never stop. And now I just want to dedicate my life to helping people by emphasising with them, being compassionate and helping them get better.

Anyway, I'm at a point now where all the things I would tell myself when I was low have more or less come to fruition. The pain went away. The darkness went away. There are things to live for. The stupid little things of every day life. I'm not perfectly happy, but I'm at a good 6.

Also, can I just say here, I don't know if anyone will find it, but if you are feeling bad right now, if you are feeling lost and like there is no hope and you need to talk to someone please send me a message. Sometimes it's good to just talk about things. Please don't hesitate to do so. Send me a message and I can keep in contact with you and I can try to help you. Send me a message about anything. Don't make the mistake of going through it alone. If you are in a dark, dark place then maybe I can be the stepping stone between where you are now and acknowledging the problem, confiding in your friends and family and getting the help you need. Just don't go through it alone.

[Prune Tracy]

More people should be like you, @YellowFever. Completely selfless and willing to help others. Thumbs up!

[YellowFever]

Thank you @Riviera, means a lot to me

[do what donny dont does]

Im 35 years old, Im on good speaking grounds with my mother, my father, and my sister, who is going through chemo for a brain turmor right now. I am very happy to be in contact with the 3 of them. I am happy.

[do what donny dont does]

I live in a 2 bedroom apartment, with a friend Ive know for 15 years, and his girlfriend. Things couldnt be fucking bettter. I do what I want, when I want, and have to answer to nobody. Life is good.

[kupomog]

Things couldnt be fucking bettter.

You could be with an EFE Italian shemale.

[Mozy]

@do what donny dont does, you could walk in to YOUR room to seeing your roommates screwing on YOUR bed with your friend's balls and ass all over YOUR pillow!

[YellowFever]

I think I've just reached a plateau in happiness I've only ever experienced in my dreams! Like I think I can even say 10.

First of all, this person that has been in a horribly low place, who's had suicidal thoughts and who I've been talking to for days has today finally come round and told me that he's starting to feel better, and he knows himself that slowly but surely things will get good again. I just couldn't be happier, I've been worried sick after being unable to contact him earlier, but now that his pain is subsiding I just feel like dancing. Seriously just dancing. Yeah I'm crazy, shoot me!

Second of all, something that makes me kinda just sort of wanna, I don't know, do a few cartwheels and backflips whilst singing 'You Make My Dreams Come True' by Hall and Oates is the fact that things are starting to look good between me and her. Like really, really good. Like amazingly awesome. Like Barney Stinson awesome. We basically talked for a long time. Waaaay past anybody's sensible bedtime. And well, that relationship she well, was in, kinda fizzled out almost immediately, she was overall basically glad at how I feel, and we talked for a while and I know it doesn't sound like much but next time she sees me she just wants to kiss me and from what we said, and I'm very good at reading people, she feels something for me! And I just couldn't be happier because she's the most beautiful, funniest, kindest, most caring, most hilarious, most unique, most random and amazing person I have ever met in my life.

So I'm sort of kinda a little bit on an emotional high right now. I might go do some tap dancing on the roof. In fact I might just become a fiddler on the roof. No, I'm not Jewish but I like to embrace many aspects of a large multitude of different cultures and religions and if dancing on a roof, violin in hand is a little bit Jewish then thus is what culture I shall adopt.

Just gonna do a little happy scream "AAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!!". Pulled a bit of a derp face there, but oh bloody well!

Oh dear Lord, I can now see this whole thread become some sort of charter of the emotional bloody rollercoaster that is my life! Yeah I'll just probably be a 4 tomorrow and back to 11 by Sunday but eh, why not?! Life is so much more fun when you can be utterly bonkers! And now I'm going to sleep, as it's 8.41AM in the UK and I'm absolutely unequivocally extremely fucking knackered (and also feeling rather linguistic, who knew?!)

And, gonna say this again, anyone needs help, any time at all about anything, contact me okay, don't be shy, all problems can be overcome with time but you first need to share these problems to be able to overcome them, and if you don't yet feel like talking to someone you know about these problems than you can certainly trust me to be an anonymous person that wont judge you and will try to help, just because I've been down there, I know what that is and getting people to where I am now just feels like my purpose in life now. So please don't hesitate to message me.